Can you fall back in love?

A question we were asked recently is "Can you fall back in love?" And our answer is yes you can.

To fall in love takes risk, vulnerability, time, and effort. To fall back in love requires the same, the difference is that there is often a history of hurt, distrust, and fear involved this time around.

Falling back in love means you have to be willing to identify what has led you to fall out of love, be open to repairing the hurts and distrust, and understand the fear that impacts building love back. You will also need to create time, intention, and effort to rebuild love in your partnership.

We recommend to begin dating your partner again. Intentionally get to know your partner again, be curious about them and adventure with them again.

Secondly, we recommend building a friendship back. Often times when we've known someone for a while we assume we know everything about them and that there isn't anything new to learn. Long-lasting relationships have partners that choose to be curious and desire to learn about their partner constantly whether it's new information or not.

Lastly, explore what you need to fall back in love with your partner. Then you invite them into cultivating that with you. You want to build a life together, not just live a life together.

While each relationship is different in what it takes to find love again, these steps can help you move in the direction of rekindling the spark.