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Creating a Relationship Vision





It's easy for couples to lose sight of their shared dreams and goals. Amidst busy schedules, conflicting priorities, and the inevitable challenges that arise, nurturing the foundation of your relationship can sometimes take a backseat. However, creating a relationship vision can serve as a guiding light, illuminating the path toward deeper connection, mutual growth, and lasting fulfillment.


A relationship vision is more than just a lofty aspiration; it's a tangible roadmap that reflects your collective hopes, values, and aspirations as a couple. Just as a business or organization articulates its mission statement to stay focused and aligned, couples can benefit immensely from clarifying their shared vision.


1. Reflection and Exploration:

Begin by setting aside dedicated time for introspection and open dialogue with your partner. Reflect on your individual values, relationship values, aspirations, and priorities, and explore how they intersect within the context of your relationship.

2. Identifying Common Goals:

What do you envision for your relationship in the short term and the long term? Identify common goals you want to pursue and work towards in your vision.

3. Defining Core Values:

Core values serve as the guiding principles that shape your relationship dynamic. From trust and respect to communication and empathy, articulate the values that you both hold dear and aspire to embody in your partnership. This is where I like to use the idea of a family/relationship crest. What symbols, images, and values define your relationship crest.

4. Embracing Growth and Adaptation:

A relationship vision isn't static; it evolves as you navigate life's twists and turns together. Embrace the process of growth and adaptation, remaining open to revisiting and refining your vision as circumstances change.


Why is this important?

1. Alignment and Unity:

A clear vision fosters alignment and unity, providing a shared sense of purpose and direction. When both partners are committed to a common goal, it strengthens the foundation of the relationship and promotes collaboration in overcoming challenges.

2. Enhanced Communication:

Articulating your relationship vision encourages open communication and deepens understanding between partners. It creates a framework for discussing hopes, fears, and expectations, fostering intimacy and connection.

3. Resilience in Adversity:

During times of stress or conflict, a relationship vision serves as a source of resilience and perspective. It reminds you of the bigger picture and motivates you to work through challenges with mutual respect and determination.

4. Celebrating Milestones:

As you progress on your journey together, your relationship vision becomes a benchmark for celebrating milestones and accomplishments. It reinforces the progress you've made and inspires you to continue investing in the growth of your partnership.


As we mentioned, the relationship vision is meant to grow, evolve, and change over time. This is not a one-and-done process, it is a repetitive, reflective process to circle back to often.

1. Regular Check-ins:

Schedule regular check-ins to revisit your relationship vision, assess your progress, and discuss any adjustments or refinements needed.

2. Intentional Actions:

Align your daily actions and decisions with your relationship vision, making conscious choices that support your shared goals and values.

3. Seeking Support:

Don't hesitate to seek support from couples' counselors, mentors, or relationship resources to help you navigate challenges and stay true to your vision.



We have two resources that walk you through how to reflect and enact a relationship vision.

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