Couples usually come into therapy with a specific problem. Maybe they’ve been arguing more since they had their first child, or perhaps they haven’t had sex in months. Whatever the problem is, it’s generally a symptom of sorts – the stuff that’s rising to the surface that is easy to point at and say “that, right there, is the problem.” In the standard medical model most folks are used to, when you bring your therapist a problem, you expect to be given a way to fix that problem. But the tricky...

There’s a classic lyric from the movie Snow White, where the soon-to-be Princess sings into the wishing well “I’m wishing, for the one I love, to find me, today.” When we grew up with fairytales like this one, it’s no wonder many people are holding out for this hopeless romantic kind of love. Oh how I wish I could tell Snow White to stop wishing and start creating the kind of love she desires – which is what we’ll be talking about today. Whether you’re actively dating or have been married...

The short answer is the one nobody loves to hear: "It depends!" Counseling looks different for every couple we work with – and that's part of the magic. There's no one-size-fits-all. But we also know that if you're new to therapy, an answer that subjective can leave you too uncertain to even want to begin. So, we're going to break down the factors that actually shape how long couples counseling takes. One thing worth saying up front: our goal is always to create lasting change so that a...