Connected Couples Counseling

The short answer is the one nobody loves to hear: "It depends!" Counseling looks different for every couple we work with – and that's part of the magic. There's no one-size-fits-all. But we also know that if you're new to therapy, an answer that subjective can leave you too uncertain to even want to begin. So, we're going to break down the factors that actually shape how long couples counseling takes. One thing worth saying up front: our goal is always to create lasting chang

Do you ever get the sense that you've "seen this film before" in the middle of an argument with your partner? One night, it might be about misremembering a story from your last vacation. The next morning, it's about forgetting where you put your child's lunchbox as you're scrambling out the door. Two completely different topics, but the feeling is identical. In our work as therapists, we're less interested in the content of your arguments, and rather turn our attention towar

If you or your partner are stuck between staying and leaving your relationship, Discernment Counseling was designed for exactly where you are right now. It's a short-term process created by Bill Doherty to help couples gain clarity and confidence about what's next, especially when one of you is leaning in and the other is leaning out. Think about the home you and your partner have built together. Maybe there's a closet full of things you never unpacked, or projects that used

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Photo by: Zurijeta via Canva When most people hear the phrase "generational wealth," they think about inheritances, property, financial head starts. And of course those things matter, but there's another kind of wealth that gets passed down just as reliably, and it has nothing to do with your bank account. It's relational wealth, because the way you love your partner is quietly teaching your children how they’ll love theirs someday. That's kind of an incredible thing to sit

Feeling resentful toward your partner? It might be telling you something about yourself. Learn how resentment works as a mirror in relationships.

I started my journey as a couples therapist one month postpartum with my daughter. Saturday, February 1st, 2020, I started seeing couples, and it has been a journey. I’m grateful I took the chance, and I’m glad each year I have gotten better at developing my skill set compared to the first year. Here are the most common challenges I have seen in the couples therapy I have provided. Challenge #1: "I’m right, you’re wrong." One of the most common challenges in couples work is t

Crucial Conversations I started reading a new book called Crucial Conversations by Patterson, Greeny, McMillan, and Switzler. It intrigued me because so many of the couples I sit with come from either the need to have crucial conversations or from not having these types of conversations. There is an Instagram influencer I follow called @stylefitfatty , and I see examples of crucial conversations going left unsaid, often with some of the questions her followers submit each wee

One of the hardest parts of my job is watching the couples I work with struggle to find the time, energy, and effort it takes to heal and grow their relationship. I hear from them that: There’s not enough time in the day. I’m so tired at the end of the work day that I just want to chill. We couldn’t find a time to align our schedules. Our lives are too busy and full. This feels like homework, and I don’t like homework. We spend an hour (or two) in therapy each week; shouldn’t

I know we are not the only website to speak about this, and I wanted to share my own personal experience and challenge with the issues of...

Our mission at Connected Couples Counseling is to help couples grow old together with a committed and deeply connected relationship. We...

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Let me set a scene for you that many couples therapists and I experience when we are treating a couple. (This is a made-up scenario as...

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Many couples come to therapy because they want to learn how to communicate better, manage conflict more effectively, or find a way to...

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